Offering outward signs of emotional support or secure comfort is optionally appreciated. Underlying manipulations of getting only what one wants by either end of the channel is judged differently. A selfish interest in trying to be kind can be alternately smart, unfriendly, or perhaps gentlemanly in today's day and age, but not wise or pure. Sharing of wealth in kindness can be intended for one, a few people, or a large society and can be known or unknown. To recognize someone for generosity of spirit and love to you it is best to go deeper than pleasure of either.